Wednesday, June 22, 2005
Time for a change?
Last night at work, we were discussing whether asking a woman's father if you can marry her is an outdated tradition, or if it is still the customary thing to do. Some of the ladies believe that they would be offended if someone they were dating were to ask their father for permission for their hand in marriage. The general tone I found in the room was that most of them actually would be offended. What do you think? Is this something that should not be carried on to future generations? Ladies, would you be offended, or is this something you want your boyfriend to do? For those of you that are already married, did your husband do this, and if so, did you want them to? Guys, what is your opinion on this? Do you want to ask the father, or do you feel like the past says that you have to? Please comment so we can see what people think!
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2 comments:
I don't feel obligated to do anything. However, for me personally, I have a great deal of respect for my girlfriend's father. I plan to go to him before I'm ready to ask and say, "I will take care of your daughter to the best of my ability...forever." That is just something I want him to know, because if I was in his shoes, I would want to know that my baby was safe.
This isn't a rule or requirement, it just feels like the right thing to do.
I think it depends on the woman and the family. If the woman is close with her family and you think they can keep a 'secret,' then ask for permission.
My girlfriend's parents are dead, so it's not an issue.
I think the real issue here might be this: Nowadays couples shop for rings and plan weddings before they're even engaged. With all of the money involved, it's difficult to surprise a woman with an engagement... it's become a much more planned decision with input from both. And I can't say that is a bad thing.
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